I would like to ask anyone who reads this to be kind to your family members.  Often you are the last defense in a bad situation. My family is completely unsupportive and unsympathetic towards how dh treats me and I am really disappointed. They should be the ones who stand up for me. Instead I am left to friends who tell me to run him over with a car.....good ideas, all, but not practical. I an not spending time in jail for that jerk.